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10:41 PM
July 28th, 2014
10:40 PM
July 28th, 2014
So I ask the American commentators, please stop announcing that Landon Donovan is the “all-time U.S. leading goal scorer.” He is not. With 57 international goals, he’s not even in the Top Five.

The all-time U.S. leading goal scorer is Abby Wambach, with 167 goals, followed by Mia Hamm (158), Kristine Lilly (130), Michelle Akers (105) and Tiffeny Milbrett (100). In fact, Abby Wambach is the all-time leading goal scorer in the world, among all soccer players, male or female.
2:04 PM
July 26th, 2014
ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
Use, redistribute, print. 
Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me
just
fucking
drop
some fucking
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.
And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.


ivorysorrows:

lil-miss-choc:

bonerack:

princessnecrophilia:

weeaboo-chan:

vhscars:

protest-resources:

50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada

Use, redistribute, print. 

Click image and magnify for large version.

Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.

so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex

it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine

i know my shit okay

im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.

What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.

And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.

(via starkindler76)

12:14 AM
July 24th, 2014
1:38 PM
March 31st, 2014

(Source: richardrmitage, via orithil)

6:56 PM
September 16th, 2013

thepagesage:

theaccidentalradical:

Robin Thicke is a big DICK

I don’t usually reblog things with language, but this has such valid and important points.

(via tolkienlocked)

12:37 PM
August 29th, 2013
idetonatearoundhim:

Ana’s been naked for like 60% of this series and suddenly taking her shirt off is “beyond courageous”? I assume because she’s pulling it off herself and not letting Christian do it for her. Way to not get stuck in the armholes, girl!! I’m impressed.

This writing is so bad, I cannot.


idetonatearoundhim:

Ana’s been naked for like 60% of this series and suddenly taking her shirt off is “beyond courageous”? I assume because she’s pulling it off herself and not letting Christian do it for her. Way to not get stuck in the armholes, girl!! I’m impressed.

This writing is so bad, I cannot.

12:27 AM
August 27th, 2013

tannerjevans:

emetophobesunite:

elvenbutterflies:

I don’t even know where to begin.

For those of you who are just tuning into me, I wrote letters to all of The Hobbit cast when I went to visit them on my Make-a-Wish. I had gotten a response from the actor who plays “Oin” just a few weeks ago. Just now, I was sitting on my floor making cancer ribbons to put on our Marching Band uniforms, and my Aunt walks in with a letter/package from Sebastian; Peter Jackson’s assistant. 

I open it, and my heart literally jumped into my throat. It was from my biggest idol, Richard Armitage. 

He wrote a pretty lengthy (and most educated) letter. It was heartfelt, and you can tell that he loves his job and takes it very seriously. In the letter it says:

I am enclosing some of Thorin’s chain mail to keep you ‘strong’.


He also included the name of the flute piece we were discussing (meaning he remembers our conversation…I am so happy). 

I am speechless…this was so kind of him. I am beyond words. All I can say is, I am so proud to be in the Armitage Army. 

I can’t read it, but wow!

For anyone who can’t read the letter, you may now benefit from my autistic ability to understand almost anything vaguely resembling handwriting:

Dear Samantha,

Thank you for your letter. It was so lovely to meet you and your family. I hope you had a great day. Pete gave me your letter on the day that we were filming Thorin’s death scene (I hope I haven’t spoiled the story). It’s always difficult to make truthful something which we see a lot in movies but in life, not so much. I wanted Thorin to be at peace and full of love when he died. The scene was about asking for Bilbo’s forgiveness. The first line he spoke was,
"If more people valued home than gold, the world would be a merrier place."

I believe that to be true.

I am enclosing some of Thorin’s chain mail to keep you ‘strong’ and a photo of Thorin in Thranduil’s prison cell; he was about to say:
"Not our only hope…"
with regards to Bilbo who will help them escape.

I hope you will keep strong and courage to escape [the same way?]

With lots of love,

Richard

P.S. The flute piece is:

Chopin Flute Variations on a
theme by Rossini

You will enjoy playing it. (google it!!)

I hope you don’t mind me typing it out so others can read it. :)

(via eredluins)

1:38 AM
August 24th, 2013

(Source: funnyordie.com)

10:06 PM
July 25th, 2013

tastefullyoffensive:

Star Wars vs. Game of Thrones [via]

Previously: ‘Game of Thrones’ as Other Popular TV Shows